Aguila Blanca
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You are trying to alter her perception, she is trying to alter yours. You don't see that as doing the same thing?Ruger451 said:I can see you're point here. This really does hand her the reins of our relationship. Honestly, I don't want to walk out, but why would I? I've had six+ years of good relationship with this girl, and that is a lot to leave over an issue that I am hoping to change her mind about. I think it will take something as severe as just buying the gun and saying "deal with it or don't" to break this routine. And I don't think (Hawkmoon) that what I am doing here is the same as what she is doing. I am trying to compromise, where as she is being uncooperative. Not only that, but I am trying to enjoy a hobby that is my legal right. She is irrationally opposed to something that I have every right to.
You are trying to compromise and she is being uncooperative? How do you think she views it? My guess is that she thinks you are being uncooperative, that "allowing" you to go to the range periodically and shoot rental guns to her IS compromise. I also suspect that she finds your interest in guns to be as irrational as you find her hate for/fear of them.
So you think you are trying to compromise. Explain to me again what the "compromise" is that you're offering her. You're not offering her a compromise ... by your own admission, you are trying to change her mind. Whether or not you choose to admit it, you have bought into a power struggle before you are even married.