3KillerBs
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A couple decades ago when DH and I were first dating he borrowed his mom's .22 rifle for me and took me can plinking. I've been hooked ever since.
You're hanging around with the wrong women.... (after all, most women do not like guns), ...
(after all, most women do not like guns)
What???I'm a busy IT consultant always traveling and decided to give eHarmony a try this week.
I'm concerned that my "hobby" may scare away any prospective girlfriends. How to defuse this potential problem or deal with it before it becomes a major issue?
List your hobby in your profile and don't waste both of your time avoiding what is very often a deal-breaker for a relationship.StephenT said:I'm a busy IT consultant always traveling and decided to give eHarmony a try this week. I'm also an avid gun owner with a collection of 100+ guns. I'm concerned that my "hobby" may scare away any prospective girlfriends. How to defuse this potential problem or deal with it before it becomes a major issue? I've seen some threads on THR about husband/wife relationships and guns, but not too many about dating and guns.
What have your experiences been with girlfriends and telling them for the first time that you've got a ton of guns and ammo at home?
FYI, the person I may meet through eHarmony is from the cajun country and so has probably grown up in a gun/hunting culture.
Why waste either of your time if she is against gun ownership? Any girl who would hesitate to reply to an on-line profile because it mentions firearms as a hobby should not be a girl any of us would want to spend time with. There would be no compatibility and would just be a waste of time. I say it is better to find out immediately if it is an issue.If I were on the dating scene I wouldn't mention them until we actually got to know each other. Then it provides a context for her to judge what you're saying. Imagine if you said, "I collect Star Wars action figures!" on the first date. You'd probably strike out. But if she gets to know you as a funny, intelligent, and all-around-good-guy, the Star Wars collection could be something that is cute and endearing.
The same goes for shooting. I'd just let it happen naturally for a while and then invite them to do some Sunday afternoon plinking picnic with .22s once I know that they know what kind of person I am.
Frogger Says:
Why waste either of your time if she is against gun ownership? Any girl who would hesitate to ... not be a girl any of us would want to spend time with...