Ooops, I just freaked the girlfriend out with my gun.
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Macmac
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I just read the first page.. Sorry if that is offensive to anyone.
I live very rural and carry 1 gun at all times to include shower. When I work on just this property i am armed with one gun, and am as i type right this instant.
Any time I leave the property i bring a bigger carry piece and so then carry 2 guns.
I consider that 'Normal'.
No knows I carry, unless i tell them.
I have heard of women that still refused to carry after being beaten and raped, but I will never understand that idea as normal.
I have a sister who is a doctor and she carries a .38 everyday in fear of being raped or robbed over drugs.
I have a sister in law who was robbed and beaten in DC, and she no longer lives in DC, but she carries a .38 as well.
What I don't understand is women that don't carry, and or atleast live with a man who does.
The worst part for me is my own wife is a better shot than I am. Perhaps her father and he step mother being stabbed to death made some difference in the ways we see things and so the ways we live.
I see it as there is 2 ways to figure it out, and one of them deald out death first, and so isn't my way.
Just the fact you can carry and maybe do only means you have a chance to survive.
If i were giving you any advise, I would say get used to carry with the gun un-loaded, treating it as if it was loaded, untill it gets to be a habit and boring.
Then load it. I don't put on pants with out a gun ever, and with out a gun I may as well hot have on pants.
I made a shelf in the shower for no other chore than to place a gun in the shower. This area is so rural I can take 2 steps on the porch and shoot anything, and no one else can even hear it.
If you don't serve to protect you and yours, don't expect the cops too either.
They can't and won't by law, and will only act after the crime has been committed.. That is a tad too late the way I see things.
I live very rural and carry 1 gun at all times to include shower. When I work on just this property i am armed with one gun, and am as i type right this instant.
Any time I leave the property i bring a bigger carry piece and so then carry 2 guns.
I consider that 'Normal'.
No knows I carry, unless i tell them.
I have heard of women that still refused to carry after being beaten and raped, but I will never understand that idea as normal.
I have a sister who is a doctor and she carries a .38 everyday in fear of being raped or robbed over drugs.
I have a sister in law who was robbed and beaten in DC, and she no longer lives in DC, but she carries a .38 as well.
What I don't understand is women that don't carry, and or atleast live with a man who does.
The worst part for me is my own wife is a better shot than I am. Perhaps her father and he step mother being stabbed to death made some difference in the ways we see things and so the ways we live.
I see it as there is 2 ways to figure it out, and one of them deald out death first, and so isn't my way.
Just the fact you can carry and maybe do only means you have a chance to survive.
If i were giving you any advise, I would say get used to carry with the gun un-loaded, treating it as if it was loaded, untill it gets to be a habit and boring.
Then load it. I don't put on pants with out a gun ever, and with out a gun I may as well hot have on pants.
I made a shelf in the shower for no other chore than to place a gun in the shower. This area is so rural I can take 2 steps on the porch and shoot anything, and no one else can even hear it.
If you don't serve to protect you and yours, don't expect the cops too either.
They can't and won't by law, and will only act after the crime has been committed.. That is a tad too late the way I see things.
notorious
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Yep, the cops have NO duty to protect you, other than to respond and take a report after you're dead. The Supreme Court made that perfectly clear.
mgregg85
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I have this same exact problem, for me I think its a combination of an addictive personality and ADD. Though with my family history of alcoholism, I'm glad i'm addicted to guns and not booze.
Macmac
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notorious. I went back just now and read page 4. I agree with you totally..
This quote taken out of context.... "I've done this with cars, R/C cars, gaming, PC's, game consoles"
IS ALL games! GUNS ARE TOOLS AND NOT GAMES. You may plat a game of skill such as Trap, or Skeet, and other games with a gun, but the gun is tool just the same.
The gun can earn food in the right hands, and or prizes, but it is a tool.
The PC is a tool and it too can be used to play games, as is a phone.
If you ask me a ink pen is more a weapon than a gun is in the right hands.
This quote taken out of context.... "I've done this with cars, R/C cars, gaming, PC's, game consoles"
IS ALL games! GUNS ARE TOOLS AND NOT GAMES. You may plat a game of skill such as Trap, or Skeet, and other games with a gun, but the gun is tool just the same.
The gun can earn food in the right hands, and or prizes, but it is a tool.
The PC is a tool and it too can be used to play games, as is a phone.
If you ask me a ink pen is more a weapon than a gun is in the right hands.
notorious
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You know what, being passionate about something and getting all OCD is nothing out of the ordinary, as a matter of fact, I worry about a man who has no passion in his life and does not take it up with all the fervor in the world. I don't believe in 1/2-a55ing something.
It's your money, you earned it, if you want to play and then be done because you're a bit ADHD on top of the OCD, so be it.
My friends and I are all like that. Live fast and enjoy life to the fullest extent. You only get 1 go around and there's no mulligan in life.
It's your money, you earned it, if you want to play and then be done because you're a bit ADHD on top of the OCD, so be it.
My friends and I are all like that. Live fast and enjoy life to the fullest extent. You only get 1 go around and there's no mulligan in life.
FoMoGo
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You mean I am not the only one who take out on screen bad guys while working in a slide or trigger? BLAM BLAM *recoil recoil*
He did nothing wrong or out of, what should be, normal.
She saw a chance to "woman him" over it.
By "woman him", and this doesnt apply to all women... I mean pull the emotional/irrational, you are not respecting my needs, etc.
This is totally a control issue.
It isnt about the gun.
This is about her having the upper hand and leading you like a puppy.
A relationship is a partnership, a 50/50 partnership.
Wait, a marriage is a 50/50 partnership.
A boyfriend/girlfriend situation is a majority share on each persons home turf.
It is your turf.
It is your life.
If it were me, I would find a non/less manipulative woman.
Find someone who has many of the same thoughts/ideals as you.
It makes life MUCH easier.
Jim
He did nothing wrong or out of, what should be, normal.
She saw a chance to "woman him" over it.
By "woman him", and this doesnt apply to all women... I mean pull the emotional/irrational, you are not respecting my needs, etc.
This is totally a control issue.
It isnt about the gun.
This is about her having the upper hand and leading you like a puppy.
A relationship is a partnership, a 50/50 partnership.
Wait, a marriage is a 50/50 partnership.
A boyfriend/girlfriend situation is a majority share on each persons home turf.
It is your turf.
It is your life.
If it were me, I would find a non/less manipulative woman.
Find someone who has many of the same thoughts/ideals as you.
It makes life MUCH easier.
Jim
notorious
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Thank you guys, all of you... you have restored my faith in the American man!
I would say something mushy like we are all soul mates and connect on an astral level beyond that of mortal comprehension but then I would have to shoot myself right afterwards to redeem my honor.
I would say something mushy like we are all soul mates and connect on an astral level beyond that of mortal comprehension but then I would have to shoot myself right afterwards to redeem my honor.
FoMoGo
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Wanna borrow my .44? 
I seriously Lucked out with my wife, of course she is wife #3... I am a slow learner.
We hit up gun shows, gun shops, the range...
She has her own carry and BUGs, rifle and shotgun.
She carries on her him... and has a concealment purse for trips to the bathroom so she has a secure place for it while she is occupied.
She has been known to say "Most men wouldnt like me, I am more of a guy with boobs."
Jim
I seriously Lucked out with my wife, of course she is wife #3... I am a slow learner.
We hit up gun shows, gun shops, the range...
She has her own carry and BUGs, rifle and shotgun.
She carries on her him... and has a concealment purse for trips to the bathroom so she has a secure place for it while she is occupied.
She has been known to say "Most men wouldnt like me, I am more of a guy with boobs."
Jim
notorious
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A guy with boobs? You're married to the President of the Office of the President Elect?
FoMoGo
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No... guy with boobs... not guy who is a boob.
Jim
Jim
notorious
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Yep, a woman's got to respect a man and what he is passionate about.
My ex-fiance didn't know what I wanted but she knew I liked guns so she just gave me money and said to buy whatever gun it is that I am wanting because she has no clue on how to get one.
My ex-fiance didn't know what I wanted but she knew I liked guns so she just gave me money and said to buy whatever gun it is that I am wanting because she has no clue on how to get one.
Cyborg
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Might need to look for Girfriend 2.0, might not
When I decided to work security armed and bought my first sidearm, my wife was unhappy but she went along with it. She knew I was conscientious and careful and she did nothave to worry about "accidents". But she still did not like to be in the room when I was cleaning or dry firing or otherwise doing something with it. She was less happy when I got a Glock but still never freaked out. Her mother flatly told me she would not be in the same house with a gun (heck of a solution to Mother-in-law visits, that
).
A couple of years passed. The area around us got more built up (we started out well outside the city limits, are now a mile INside them); tagging appeared on fences in the area (never had before that we had seen); and we heard of some burgularies and home invasions in the subdivisions around us. One night, as we were getting ready to go to sleep, I asked her to come with me to the range some time so I could teach her basic firearms safety and let her fire the compact Baby Eagle .40 for when I was working 3rd shift. I figured I'd have to ask her on several different occasions, beg, plead and generally wear her down. Nope! She said "OK" right then and there. Imagine that.
There might be hope for the OP and his current GF yet. Then again there might not. If she tells him to get rid of the gun and slaps his hand every time he goes to tickle the little furry critter, it might be time to go for girlfriend 2.0.
Cy
When I decided to work security armed and bought my first sidearm, my wife was unhappy but she went along with it. She knew I was conscientious and careful and she did nothave to worry about "accidents". But she still did not like to be in the room when I was cleaning or dry firing or otherwise doing something with it. She was less happy when I got a Glock but still never freaked out. Her mother flatly told me she would not be in the same house with a gun (heck of a solution to Mother-in-law visits, that
).A couple of years passed. The area around us got more built up (we started out well outside the city limits, are now a mile INside them); tagging appeared on fences in the area (never had before that we had seen); and we heard of some burgularies and home invasions in the subdivisions around us. One night, as we were getting ready to go to sleep, I asked her to come with me to the range some time so I could teach her basic firearms safety and let her fire the compact Baby Eagle .40 for when I was working 3rd shift. I figured I'd have to ask her on several different occasions, beg, plead and generally wear her down. Nope! She said "OK" right then and there. Imagine that.
There might be hope for the OP and his current GF yet. Then again there might not. If she tells him to get rid of the gun and slaps his hand every time he goes to tickle the little furry critter, it might be time to go for girlfriend 2.0.
Cy
notorious
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Not at all, but make sure you hit the bad guy when you do your sound effects. I've seen too many guys just "pssshew" away and spray and pray that they hit the baddie on TV and miss with all their imaginary rounds and hit imaginary bystanders.
Reading again what you said her responses were, it made me think if maybe she didn't just get hit with a dose of the unexpected.
You know, you've maybe been talking about and reading about guns for a while...you get something little and she thinks "oh, he's just having a good time," and then suddenly you've got a big "serious" gun AND you're in bed with it! I suppose that might take me by surprise...especially if I thought it was just a momentary obsession or passing thing that I didn't think was going to go very far. Or maybe she just thinks you're being childish about the obsession and the perceived immaturity is making her angry (I know when I feel my partner is acting immaturely, my patience level with him goes WAY down). And if when she met you you were not into guns, then the person she knows you as has just changed, which can be a bit disconcerting, same as if you suddenly took up drinking or hanging out with your friends much more (or less, for that matter) often or decided to shave your legs, y'know? Some of us don't deal with change all that well, unfortunately (I usually get taken for a turn when something I've taken for granted suddenly changes). Do you suddenly spend more time reading about guns and less with her than you used to?
The other question is...what is her background? Has she ever been afraid of guns (or possibly is and doesn't want to admit it)? Has she ever been the victim of gun violence? Has she ever known someone who's been injured by a significant other, especially with a gun (or watched too many TV shows where that's happened, or is being warned by friends or family members who've also seen how much you're into this)? Is it possible she thinks this gun obsession might go too far and you might start using it inappropriately (i.e. in a way that might make her feel unsafe)? Or hell, could it be as simple as the fact that she was in the middle of a nightmare about being shot and suddenly she's being woken up by a guy in her bed with a gun?
Dump her immediately for it? No. Not unless she continues being difficult about it. And without hearing her side of the story, I'm not willing to suggest yet that she's being a controlling b*tch like some folks here are trying to do.
You know, you've maybe been talking about and reading about guns for a while...you get something little and she thinks "oh, he's just having a good time," and then suddenly you've got a big "serious" gun AND you're in bed with it! I suppose that might take me by surprise...especially if I thought it was just a momentary obsession or passing thing that I didn't think was going to go very far. Or maybe she just thinks you're being childish about the obsession and the perceived immaturity is making her angry (I know when I feel my partner is acting immaturely, my patience level with him goes WAY down). And if when she met you you were not into guns, then the person she knows you as has just changed, which can be a bit disconcerting, same as if you suddenly took up drinking or hanging out with your friends much more (or less, for that matter) often or decided to shave your legs, y'know? Some of us don't deal with change all that well, unfortunately (I usually get taken for a turn when something I've taken for granted suddenly changes). Do you suddenly spend more time reading about guns and less with her than you used to?
The other question is...what is her background? Has she ever been afraid of guns (or possibly is and doesn't want to admit it)? Has she ever been the victim of gun violence? Has she ever known someone who's been injured by a significant other, especially with a gun (or watched too many TV shows where that's happened, or is being warned by friends or family members who've also seen how much you're into this)? Is it possible she thinks this gun obsession might go too far and you might start using it inappropriately (i.e. in a way that might make her feel unsafe)? Or hell, could it be as simple as the fact that she was in the middle of a nightmare about being shot and suddenly she's being woken up by a guy in her bed with a gun?
Dump her immediately for it? No. Not unless she continues being difficult about it. And without hearing her side of the story, I'm not willing to suggest yet that she's being a controlling b*tch like some folks here are trying to do.
Dr. Tad Hussein Winslow
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I didn't read all pages, but I agree with what I gather to be the gist of the advice - she sounds (unfortunately) way beyond help with that belief system fundamentally different from yours (and warped AFAIA concerned)....time to upgrade to girlfriend version 2.0, or be prepared for a momentous task in slowly changing her mind over time.
Man, you're a weirdo...just like me!
Man, you're a weirdo...just like me!
Don't fear the gun, fear the S.O.B. who misuses it.
Your girlfriend is an anti. Time to upgrade.
Don't shoot yourself. It will hurt. You might even die.
The gun was unloaded, it was pointed in a safe direction, you were in your own home. Where is this careless activity you mention?
Well, as I'm typing this I'm sitting in my living room keeping an eye on my 2 year old (who's playing with her toys) while my wife puts away laundry. I have a loaded weapon in an IWB holster. No problems. I carry all day, every day, and my family is comfortable with it because I've demonstrated an in-depth knowledge of my weapons, their safety features, their safe handling, and all (relevant) related tactical, medical, and legal issues. Knowledge and responsibility are key here.
It sounds like your woman doesn't trust you. If she doesn't think you're responsible enough to handle your weapon in your own home you have 3 choices:
1. Only handle your weapon at times and locations your girlfriend deems appropriate.
2. Prove to her that you're a responsible person (assuming you are) and are well versed in the safe handling of your weapon by taking and completing a firearms safety class (many places require this to obtain a CCW, so it could be a first step towards that too).
3. Get a new girlfriend. A well maintained gun will bring you many years of faithful service and enjoyment, can you say the same about your girlfriend? Besides, your gun won't start to sag with age and won't get a headache when you want to pop off a round or two.
Cyborg
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Not sure there IS such a thing
If you want access you to the little furry critter you gotta put up with some manipulation. Question for each of us is how MUCH manipulation we're willing to put up with.
Please note: I am NOT misogynistic. I love the fairer sex. Visiting priviledges to the garden of earthly delights is a great thing. But some times Rosie and her friends are preferable to what comes along with said visiting priviledges. YOU gotta decide for yourself.
Good luck, my friend.
Cy
Question for the Creator. Why did he have to build the garden of earthly delights RIGHT NEXT DOOR to the sewer?
Less manipulative? Maybe. NON manipulative - november foxtrot whiskey. No such animal. Being manipulative comes with that supernumary X chromosome they carry. Frack! They don't even consciously know they are doing it. It just sorta comes naturally to em.FoMoGo said:
If you want access you to the little furry critter you gotta put up with some manipulation. Question for each of us is how MUCH manipulation we're willing to put up with. Please note: I am NOT misogynistic. I love the fairer sex. Visiting priviledges to the garden of earthly delights is a great thing. But some times Rosie and her friends are preferable to what comes along with said visiting priviledges. YOU gotta decide for yourself.
Good luck, my friend.
Cy
Question for the Creator. Why did he have to build the garden of earthly delights RIGHT NEXT DOOR to the sewer?
This one has strayed way too far off the high road.
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