Ragnar Danneskjold
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She does make some very good points about not jumping into things to fast, and especially about getting training.
But I am very suspicious of anyone who tries to change someone else's behavior base on their feelings or "comfort zone". What if you would have told her that not being able to defend yourself and her inside your home was outside of YOUR comfort zone? Who then takes precedence? She doesn't even seem to be willing to learn more information. Ignorance can be forgiven. Unwillingness to learn cannot. It seems like she has decided that her emotions are going to be in charge of everything and that's that. You've been with her for a number of years, so I doubt you want to just dump her. But before you plan on taking the next step, I would make sure to deal with that issue most of all. I would say her inclination to demand that you mold your actions around her feelings without her even trying to learn about the situation is a bigger issue than the gun argument. That needs to be completely sorted out before any more relationship steps are taken.
And the comments about hand guns being "people killers" and scoffing at your exercising your rights are suspicious as well. And btw, both me and 3 other friends my age(I'm 25) all carry our handguns in the home. My girlfriend doesn't care, and neither does the girlfriend of one of 3 friends. Your girlfriend's ideas about "normal people" are very inaccurate.
But I am very suspicious of anyone who tries to change someone else's behavior base on their feelings or "comfort zone". What if you would have told her that not being able to defend yourself and her inside your home was outside of YOUR comfort zone? Who then takes precedence? She doesn't even seem to be willing to learn more information. Ignorance can be forgiven. Unwillingness to learn cannot. It seems like she has decided that her emotions are going to be in charge of everything and that's that. You've been with her for a number of years, so I doubt you want to just dump her. But before you plan on taking the next step, I would make sure to deal with that issue most of all. I would say her inclination to demand that you mold your actions around her feelings without her even trying to learn about the situation is a bigger issue than the gun argument. That needs to be completely sorted out before any more relationship steps are taken.
And the comments about hand guns being "people killers" and scoffing at your exercising your rights are suspicious as well. And btw, both me and 3 other friends my age(I'm 25) all carry our handguns in the home. My girlfriend doesn't care, and neither does the girlfriend of one of 3 friends. Your girlfriend's ideas about "normal people" are very inaccurate.